Best Practice: Use Your Words


I’ve learned many life lessons in coffee shops.   The value of spending time in coffee shops  is a continual conversation between Joshua and myself at TableThink.   He’s not a coffee drinker and I love a good cup of coffee.

Anyway . . .

I overheard a conversation between the barista and a customer as I waited for my coffee in a little coastal town coffee shop.   The customer wanted to pick up coffee for a large group the next day.  The barista told the customer they would not be able to fill the order.   But.  The customer would not take “no” for the answer.  The barista finally said they would have the order ready the next morning. The customer left with a smile.

The other barista asked, “Why did you say we could fill the order when you know we can’t possibly have it ready and still serve the customers who come in?”  

The answer:  “I did not mean it.  He would not leave until I agreed.  So, I agreed.”

There is so much in this conversation.


Before making a judgement, be honest:  Have you ever said something you did not mean?

For Example . . . 

  • To a child or an adult to avoid hurting their feelings?
  • To feel better about yourself?
  • To make someone appear to be wrong or worse?

Side Note . . .

One of my mentors told me to use the word, “Interesting.”  It’s a good word to use to not only keep a conversation going but to value the person. 

The Thing Is . . .

The truth of our words matter  . . . whether we are engaged in self-talk . . . or a conversation with someone.

Words of truth serve what matters in life.   The power of words will direct us to positivity or negativity, light or darkness, grace or shame, encouragement or discouragement, inclusivity or exclusivity.

God calls us to use words of life.   

The Message translation of Jesus’ conversation gives reason to think on the importance of meaning what you say, using words of truth:

And don’t say anything you don’t mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it. You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong (Matthew 5:37-39 (MSG)). 

Choose to live in the space of truth and experience the fullness of God’s goodness and mercy.  Use words of truth to validate, accept, and inspire.

Here’s The Challenge . . . 

Stop wasting words. Mean what you say.  Use words of truth. Practice words of truth on yourself as well as others.

Blessing . . . 

May your life be blessed with the best practice of using words of truth for the highest good.

As pastors and life-coaches, we’ve listened to the stories of many people over the years.  It’s clear (more than ever) that individuals who work to develop best practices (healthy habits) and delete what’s not working (unhealthy habits) will find fulfillment and live their best.

Yes. Developing best practices is a life-time process. It requires intentionality and action.

When we keep doing what’s not working, it will continue not to work.  In other words, we become our own victim when we do less than best.  Best practices are an investment to the fulfillment of our best.

The thing is . . . fulfillment rises exponentially when best practices are developed . . . becoming a part of the rhythm, routine, and ritual (our three “R’s”) of our daily life:

  • Routine: A regular and fixed weekly best practice.
  • Rhythm: A  harmonious and synchronistic pattern of living.
  • Ritual:  A space for meaningful and sacred moments.

Best Practice

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